I spend a little time looking around at some the Economic blogs. I am a big fan of Freakonomics, Levitt and Dubner's view of the world. Steven Levitt has an adopted daughter from China. Here is an interesting comment on how some of the time the decisions that are made are not so black and white. Very interesting read. If you don't follow the link to the NY Times inside the article you are missing the whole point. There are no easy decisions. Well worth taking another 3 minutes to read how one family had to make their life-defining decision on adoption on the spot in the moment. Which brings me to my own personal story.
For the Grace of God, there go I. Wow. Don't know how we would have made that decision or what we would have done. We did see it first hand where one couple in our group did make a very hard decision. I can't imagine what or how that decision comes about. Not my place to judge because that decision was right for them.
In hindsite I have always been on guard of people who have jack ass comments to make about our decision to adopt from China. I guess we do have the a bit of the upper hand when we can say that both of the girls are adopted. So F*** them if they want to pass judgment on me about it. But after reading that article it just makes me think about how the decisions in all aspects of life are not always what we think that they may be. If someone wants to state their ignorance to me; that ain't against the law. My job is to protect my daughter and my family and to NOT make them pawns in other people's arguements. I have thought if they want to learn something then maybe I can help them out. Yeah, well maybe not.
There are several people that I know that are still in the process of adopting from China and are stuck on how long the wait is taking. I guess my advice to them is that the wait is not the biggest thing in their life. The referral process is not the goal post; it is just the begining. It becomes just milepost along the path of life that is going to involve bringing another little person in your life who, will forever, change how you are going to live and see the world.
Big step into the future happened today. Something that I have been wrestling with and Mom has been patient with but its time to move on. I was talking to an aquaintence who defined so well. And the bell rang / lightbulb went off. Very refreshing and relieving to be able to put my finger on it. Came home and talked to the Mom about and she had to agree!!
OK, so my point to "change the world" is over. But since I belong to this program that can't allow me to be mad and angry at the world. So, I am sorry, let's learn and move on.
